SN 37.1PTS SN 4.2381 min read

A Lady

Mātugāmasutta

Five things that make a woman either agreeable or disagreeable to men.

Translated by Bhikkhu Sujato · Pāli: Mahāsaṅgīti Tipiṭaka · Public domain (CC0) via SuttaCentral

0.1Saṁyutta Nikāya 37.1Linked Discourses 37.1
0.21. Paṭhamapeyyālavagga1. Abbreviated Texts

0.3MātugāmasuttaA Lady

1.1“Pañcahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantaamanāpo hoti purisassa.“Mendicants, when a lady has five factors she is extremely undesirable to a man.¹1.2Katamehi pañcahi?What five?1.3Na ca rūpavā hoti, na ca bhogavā hoti, na ca sīlavā hoti, alaso ca hoti, pajañcassa na labhati—She’s not attractive, wealthy, or ethical; she’s idle, and she doesn’t beget children.1.4imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantaamanāpo hoti purisassa.When a lady has these five factors she is extremely undesirable to a man.

1.5Pañcahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantamanāpo hoti purisassa.When a lady has five factors she is extremely desirable to a man.1.6Katamehi pañcahi?What five?1.7Rūpavā ca hoti, bhogavā ca hoti, sīlavā ca hoti, dakkho ca hoti analaso, pajañcassa labhati—She’s attractive, wealthy, and ethical; she’s deft and tireless, and she begets children.1.8imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantamanāpo hoti purisassā”ti.When a lady has these five factors she is extremely desirable to a man.”²

1.9Paṭhamaṁ.

Translator’s notes

Mātugāma literally means “motherkind” (cf. the archaic “motherkin”). It is a word for women in Pali, but it appears unique to Buddhist texts, and hence may be a technical or formal term (cf. puggala, SN 22.22:2.2). Grammatically it is always singular, but it sometimes takes a plural sense as a collective noun. In this sentence, for example, mātugāma is paired with “man” so it must be a singular “woman”, whereas at SN 37.3:1.1 it is paired with “men” in plural so it must be “womankind”. The commentary says it is any human woman, even one born that very day. As to the connotations of the term, “mother” is probably meant in an affectionate and respectful sense, perhaps to remind the monks not to fall into objectification (cf. SN 35.127:1.6). There are different patterns of usage in different texts. Throughout the Pātimokkha—the quintessential text for monks—mātugāma is used with bhikkhu, whereas itthī (“woman”) is used with purisa (“man”). But there is no corresponding male form, so bhikkhunī takes purisa. However, this distinction does not obtain in the Suttas, where mātugāma is used with purisa. Overall, I think mātugāma is respectful and slightly formal, so I use “lady” for mātugāma and “woman” for itthī.
↩ sn37.1:1.1
As to why the Buddha should be listing the traits that make a woman desirable, your guess is as good as mine. The next discourse says the exact same thing with genders reversed, so perhaps the purpose was to subvert expectations. One noteworthy detail is that this leaves out questions of caste and family, in contrast with, say, Manu 3.5–19.
↩ sn37.1:1.8