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2. Sitting alone with a woman

Dutiyaaniyata

A female lay disciple may see a monk sitting in private with a woman. If she accuses him of an offense entailing suspension or confession, and he admits to the offense, then he incurs an offense accordingly.

Translated by Bhikkhu Brahmali · Pāli: Mahāsaṅgīti Tipiṭaka · Public domain (CC0) via SuttaCentral

  • 0.1Theravāda VinayaTheravāda Collection on Monastic Law
  • 0.2MahāvibhaṅgaThe Great Analysis
  • 0.3AniyatakaṇḍaThe chapter on undetermined offenses

0.42. DutiyaaniyatasikkhāpadaSitting alone with a woman

1.0Origin story

1.1Tena samayena buddho bhagavā sāvatthiyaṁ viharati jetavane anāthapiṇḍikassa ārāme.At one time the Buddha was staying at Sāvatthī in the Jeta Grove, Anāthapiṇḍika’s Monastery.1.2Tena kho pana samayena āyasmā udāyī—“bhagavatā paṭikkhittaṁ mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho paṭicchanne āsane alaṅkammaniye nisajjaṁ kappetun”ti tassāyeva kumārikāya saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappesi kālayuttaṁ samullapanto kālayuttaṁ dhammaṁ bhaṇanto.At this time Venerable Udāyī heard that the Buddha had prohibited sitting alone with a woman on a private and concealed seat suitable for the deed, and so instead he sat down in private alone with the same girl. When they were able, they just chatted; otherwise he gave her a teaching.

1.3Dutiyampi kho visākhā migāramātā nimantitā taṁ kulaṁ agamāsi.A second time Visākhā had been invited to that family.1.4Addasā kho visākhā migāramātā āyasmantaṁ udāyiṁ tassāyeva kumārikāya saddhiṁ ekaṁ ekāya raho nisinnaṁ.When she arrived, she saw Udāyī sitting in private alone with the same girl,1.5Disvāna āyasmantaṁ udāyiṁ etadavoca—and she said to Udāyī,1.6“idaṁ, bhante, nacchannaṁ nappatirūpaṁ yaṁ ayyo mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappeti.“Venerable, it’s not appropriate for you to sit down in private alone with a woman.1.7Kiñcāpi, bhante, ayyo anatthiko tena dhammena, api ca dussaddhāpayā appasannā manussā”ti.You may not be aiming at that act, but it’s hard to convince people with little confidence.”1.8Evampi kho āyasmā udāyī visākhāya migāramātuyā vuccamāno nādiyi.But Udāyī did not listen.1.9Atha kho visākhā migāramātā nikkhamitvā bhikkhūnaṁ etamatthaṁ ārocesi.After leaving, Visākhā told the monks what had happened.1.10Ye te bhikkhū appicchā …pe… te ujjhāyanti khiyyanti vipācenti—The monks of few desires complained and criticized him,1.11“kathañhi nāma āyasmā udāyī mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappessatī”ti.“How could Venerable Udāyī sit down in private alone with a woman?”

1.12Atha kho te bhikkhū āyasmantaṁ udāyiṁ anekapariyāyena vigarahitvā bhagavato etamatthaṁ ārocesuṁ …pe…After rebuking Udāyī in many ways, they told the Buddha. Soon afterwards he had the Sangha gathered and questioned Udāyī:1.13“saccaṁ kira tvaṁ, udāyi, mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappesī”ti?“Is it true, Udāyī, that you did this?”

1.14“Saccaṁ, bhagavā”ti.“It’s true, sir.”

1.15Vigarahi buddho bhagavā …pe…The Buddha rebuked him …1.16kathañhi nāma tvaṁ, moghapurisa, mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappessasi.“Foolish man, how could you do this?1.17Netaṁ, moghapurisa, appasannānaṁ vā pasādāya …pe…This will affect people’s confidence …” …1.18evañca pana, bhikkhave, imaṁ sikkhāpadaṁ uddiseyyātha—“And, monks, this training rule should be recited like this:

1.19.0Final ruling

1.19.1PTS 3.192“Na heva kho pana paṭicchannaṁ āsanaṁ hoti nālaṅkammaniyaṁ, alañca kho hoti mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsituṁ.‘Although a seat is not concealed, nor suitable for the deed, it may be suitable for speaking indecently to a woman.1.20Yo pana bhikkhu tathārūpe āsane mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisajjaṁ kappeyya, tamenaṁ saddheyyavacasā upāsikā disvāIf a monk sits down on such a seat in private alone with a woman, and a trustworthy female lay follower sees him1.21dvinnaṁ dhammānaṁ aññatarena vadeyya—saṅghādisesena vā pācittiyena vā.and accuses him of an offense entailing suspension or an offense entailing confession,1.22Nisajjaṁ bhikkhu paṭijānamāno dvinnaṁ dhammānaṁ aññatarena kāretabbo— saṅghādisesena vā pācittiyena vā.then, if he admits to the sitting, he is to be dealt with according to one of these two1.23Yena vā sā saddheyyavacasā upāsikā vadeyya tena so bhikkhu kāretabbo.or according to what that trustworthy female lay follower has said.1.24Ayampi dhammo aniyato”ti.This rule too is undetermined.’”

2.1.0Definitions

2.1.1Na heva kho pana paṭicchannaṁ āsanaṁ hotītiAlthough a seat is not concealed:
2.1.2appaṭicchannaṁ hoti kuṭṭena vā kavāṭena vā kilañjena vā sāṇipākārena vā rukkhena vā thambhena vā kotthaḷiyā vā yena kenaci appaṭicchannaṁ hoti.it is not concealed by a wall, a screen, a door, a cloth screen, a tree, a pillar, a grain container, or anything else.
2.1.3NālaṅkammaniyantiNor suitable for the deed:
2.1.4na sakkā hoti methunaṁ dhammaṁ paṭisevituṁ.one is not able to have sexual intercourse.
2.1.5Alañca kho hoti mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsituntiIt may be suitable for speaking indecently to a woman:
2.1.6sakkā hoti mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsituṁ.one is able to speak indecently to a woman.
2.1.7Yo panātiA:
2.1.8yo yādiso …pe…whoever …
2.1.9bhikkhūtiMonk:
2.1.10…pe… ayaṁ imasmiṁ atthe adhippeto bhikkhūti.… The monk who has been given the full ordination by a unanimous Sangha through a legal procedure consisting of one motion and three announcements that is irreversible and fit to stand—this sort of monk is meant in this case.
2.1.11Tathārūpe āsanetiOn such a seat:
2.1.12evarūpe āsane.on that sort of seat.
2.1.13Mātugāmo nāmaA woman:
2.1.14manussitthī, na yakkhī na petī na tiracchānagatā, viññū paṭibalā subhāsitadubbhāsitaṁ duṭṭhullāduṭṭhullaṁ ājānituṁ.a human female, not a female spirit, not a female ghost, not a female animal. She understands and is capable of discerning good and bad speech, what is decent and what is indecent.
2.1.15SaddhintiWith:
2.1.16ekato.together.
2.1.17Eko ekāyātiAlone:
2.1.18bhikkhu ceva hoti mātugāmo ca.just the monk and the woman.
2.1.19Raho nāmaIn private:
2.1.20cakkhussa raho, sotassa raho.private to the eye and private to the ear.
2.1.21Cakkhussa raho nāmaPrivate to the eye:
2.1.22na sakkā hoti akkhiṁ vā nikhaṇīyamāne bhamukaṁ vā ukkhipīyamāne sīsaṁ vā ukkhipīyamāne passituṁ.one is unable to see them winking, raising an eyebrow, or nodding.
2.1.23Sotassa raho nāmaPrivate to the ear:
2.1.24na sakkā hoti pakatikathā sotuṁ.one is unable to hear ordinary speech.
2.1.25Nisajjaṁ kappeyyātiSits down:
2.1.26mātugāme nisinne bhikkhu upanisinno vā hoti upanipanno vā.the monk sits down or lies down next to the seated woman.2.1.27Bhikkhu nisinne mātugāmo upanisinno vā hoti upanipanno vā.The woman sits down or lies down next to the seated monk.2.1.28Ubho vā nisinnā honti ubho vā nipannā.Both are seated or both are lying down.
2.1.29Saddheyyavacasā nāmaTrustworthy:
2.1.30āgataphalā abhisametāvinī viññātasāsanā.she has attained the fruit, she has broken through, she has understood the instruction.
2.1.31Upāsikā nāmaFemale lay follower:
2.1.32buddhaṁ saraṇaṁ gatā, dhammaṁ saraṇaṁ gatā, saṅghaṁ saraṇaṁ gatā.she has gone for refuge to the Buddha, the Teaching, and the Sangha.
2.1.33DisvātiSees:
2.1.34passitvā.having seen.
2.2.1Dvinnaṁ dhammānaṁ aññatarena vadeyya saṅghādisesena vā pācittiyena vā.If she accuses him of an offense entailing suspension or an offense entailing confession,2.2.2Nisajjaṁ bhikkhu paṭijānamāno dvinnaṁ dhammānaṁ aññatarena kāretabbo— saṅghādisesena vā pācittiyena vā.then, if he admits to the sitting, he is to be dealt with according to one of these two2.2.3Yena vā sā saddheyyavacasā upāsikā vadeyya, tena so bhikkhu kāretabbo.or according to what that trustworthy female lay follower has said.

2.2.4Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.5“ayyo mayā diṭṭho nisinno mātugāmena saddhiṁ kāyasaṁsaggaṁ samāpajjanto”ti,“I’ve seen you seated, making physical contact with a woman,”2.2.6so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the offense.2.2.7Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.8“ayyo mayā diṭṭho nisinno mātugāmena saddhiṁ kāyasaṁsaggaṁ samāpajjanto”ti,“I’ve seen you seated, making physical contact with a woman,”2.2.9so ce evaṁ vadeyya—but he says,2.2.10“saccāhaṁ nisinno, no ca kho kāyasaṁsaggaṁ samāpajjin”ti,“It’s true that I was seated, but I didn’t make physical contact,”2.2.11nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.12“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho nipanno”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but lying down,”2.2.13nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.14“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho ṭhito”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but standing,”2.2.15na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.16PTS 3.193Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.17“ayyo mayā diṭṭho nipanno mātugāmena saddhiṁ kāyasaṁsaggaṁ samāpajjanto”ti,“I’ve seen you lying down, making physical contact with a woman,”2.2.18so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo …pe…and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the offense. …2.2.19“saccāhaṁ nipanno, no ca kho kāyasaṁsaggaṁ samāpajjin”ti,“It’s true that I was lying down, but I didn’t make physical contact,”2.2.20nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.21“nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho nisinno”ti,“I wasn’t lying down, but seated,”2.2.22nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.23“nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho ṭhito”ti,“I wasn’t lying down, but standing,”2.2.24na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.25Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.26“ayyassa mayā sutaṁ nisinnassa mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsantassā”ti,“I’ve heard you speaking indecently to a woman while seated,”2.2.27so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the offense.2.2.28Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.29“ayyassa mayā sutaṁ nisinnassa mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsantassā”ti,“I’ve heard you speaking indecently to a woman while seated,”2.2.30so ce evaṁ vadeyya—but he says,2.2.31“saccāhaṁ nisinno, no ca kho duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsin”ti,“It’s true that I was seated, but I didn’t speak indecently,”2.2.32nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.33“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho nipanno”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but lying down,”2.2.34nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.35“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho ṭhito”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but standing,”2.2.36na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.37Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.38“ayyassa mayā sutaṁ nipannassa mātugāmaṁ duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsantassā”ti,“I’ve heard you speaking indecently to a woman while lying down,”2.2.39so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo …pe…and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the offense. …2.2.40saccāhaṁ nipanno, no ca kho duṭṭhullāhi vācāhi obhāsinti,“It’s true that I was lying down, but I didn’t speak indecently,”2.2.41nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.42“nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho nisinno”ti,“I wasn’t lying down, but seated,”2.2.43nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.44“nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho ṭhito”ti,“I wasn’t lying down, but standing,”2.2.45na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.46Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.47“ayyo mayā diṭṭho mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nisinno”ti,“I’ve seen you seated in private alone with a woman,”2.2.48so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.49“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho nipanno”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but lying down,”2.2.50nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.51“nāhaṁ nisinno, api ca kho ṭhito”ti,“I wasn’t seated, but standing,”2.2.52na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.53Sā ce evaṁ vadeyya—If she accuses him like this:2.2.54“ayyo mayā diṭṭho mātugāmena saddhiṁ eko ekāya raho nipanno”ti,“I’ve seen you lying down in private alone with a woman,”2.2.55so ca taṁ paṭijānāti, nipajjāya kāretabbo …pe…and he admits to that, then he is to be dealt with for the lying down. …2.2.56nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho nisinnoti,“I wasn’t lying down, but seated,”2.2.57nisajjāya kāretabbo …pe…then he is to be dealt with for the sitting. …2.2.58nāhaṁ nipanno, api ca kho ṭhitoti,“I wasn’t lying down, but standing,”2.2.59na kāretabbo.then he is not to be dealt with.

2.2.60AyampītiThis rule too:
2.2.61purimaṁ upādāya vuccati.this is said with reference to the previous undetermined rule.
2.2.62AniyatotiUndetermined:
2.2.63na niyato, saṅghādiseso vā pācittiyaṁ vā.not determined. It is either an offense entailing suspension or an offense entailing confession.

3.0Permutations

3.1Gamanaṁ paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ paṭijānāti āpattiṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.If he admits to going, and he admits to sitting, and he admits to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the offense.3.2Gamanaṁ paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ na paṭijānāti āpattiṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.If he admits to going, but he does not admit to sitting, yet he admits to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the offense.3.3Gamanaṁ paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ paṭijānāti āpattiṁ na paṭijānāti, nisajjāya kāretabbo.If he admits to going, and he admits to sitting, but he does not admit to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the sitting.3.4Gamanaṁ paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ na paṭijānāti āpattiṁ na paṭijānāti, na kāretabbo.If he admits to going, but he does not admit to sitting, nor does he admit to an offense, he is not to be dealt with.

3.5Gamanaṁ na paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ paṭijānāti āpattiṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.If he does not admit to going, but he admits to sitting, and he admits to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the offense.3.6Gamanaṁ na paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ na paṭijānāti āpattiṁ paṭijānāti, āpattiyā kāretabbo.If he does not admit to going, nor does he admit to sitting, but he admits to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the offense.3.7Gamanaṁ na paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ paṭijānāti āpattiṁ na paṭijānāti, nisajjāya kāretabbo.If he does not admit to going, but he admits to sitting, yet he does not admit to an offense, he is to be dealt with for the sitting.3.8Gamanaṁ na paṭijānāti nisajjaṁ na paṭijānāti āpattiṁ na paṭijānāti, na kāretabboti.If he does not admit to going, nor does he admit to sitting, nor does he admit to an offense, he is not to be dealt with.

3.9Dutiyo aniyato niṭṭhito.The second undetermined offense on sitting alone with a woman is finished.

3.10PTS 3.194Uddiṭṭhā kho āyasmanto dve aniyatā dhammā.“Venerables, the two undetermined rules have been recited.3.11Tatthāyasmante pucchāmi—In regard to this I ask you,3.12“kaccittha parisuddhā”?‘Are you pure in this?’3.13Dutiyampi pucchāmi—A second time I ask,3.14“kaccittha parisuddhā”?‘Are you pure in this?’3.15Tatiyampi pucchāmi—A third time I ask,3.16“kaccittha parisuddhā”?‘Are you pure in this?’3.17Parisuddhetthāyasmanto;You are pure in this3.18tasmā tuṇhī,and therefore silent.3.19evametaṁ dhārayāmīti.I will remember it thus.”

3.20TassuddānaṁThis is the summary:

3.21Alaṁ kammaniyañceva,“Suitable for the deed,3.22tatheva ca naheva kho;And then not so—3.23Aniyatā supaññattā,The undetermined offenses have been well laid down,3.24buddhaseṭṭhena tādināti.By the Stable One, the Buddha who is the best.”

3.25Aniyatakaṇḍaṁ niṭṭhitaṁ.The chapter on undetermined offenses is finished.